Anthony Santen - Books

This book is a practical guide for anyone who wants to improve their intimate relationships, even if you're not familiar with mental health terms.

We start with the basics, looking at attachment styles from the ideas of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. Don't worry if these names are new – the book explains everything in straightforward language. Whether you're securely attached, worry a lot about relationships, or tend to avoid closeness, this book helps you understand how you and your partner might interact.

The core of the book is all about how different attachment styles work together. It's like a cheat sheet for couples, helping you see what's strong in your relationship and where you might face challenges. But this isn't just theory – there are practical tips for improving how you communicate, share emotions, and handle disagreements, no matter where you are in your relationship.

We also dig into why we act the way we do in relationships. Ever wonder why men and women sometimes seem to approach love differently? The book connects attachment styles to evolutionary instincts, giving you a bigger picture of why you and your partner might see things in your unique ways.

When you’re ready for real and practical solutions to the overwhelming anxiety you face daily, this book is for you. Most anxiety can be managed using everyday tools and practical resource management without medication or psychotherapy.

Anxiety affects many aspects of daily life and mental health. For example, it can result in low self-esteem, depression, relationship problems, decreased motivation and work performance. Anxiety can even undermine our immune systems and seriously impact our sense of wellness.

This book addresses how our battle with overwhelm can be managed by understanding the logical relationship between inputs and resources. The ultimate remedy lies in discovering your most valuable resource, you, leading to deliberate engagement and increased resilience.

In everyday language, Anthony provides easy-to-use tools that can be integrated into the busiest lives. Beyond the temporary relief promised by mantras, physical exercise, meditation, and supplements, this book leads you directly toward solving your relationship with anxiety by identifying the likely culprits and encouraging you toward realistic, practical, and permanent solutions.

Anthony has decades of clinical experience in individual counselling, couples counselling, and life coaching. His approach is rooted firmly in Evolutionary Psychology. The award-winning author provides a wealth of knowledge from thousands of clinical hours with clients facing their daily anxiety challenges.