Marriage Counseling

- Are you ready for a renewed relationship?

- Are you ready to rekindle your love?


In theory, love should be a mix of wonderful acceptance, deeply rewarding collaboration and intimate sharing.

In practice, however, there is conflict, blame and hurt.
A seemingly far cry from the love, support and kindness you were hoping for.

I have over two decades of marriage counseling experience, realigning each of the partners' deepest needs within the marriage. My unique approach is that I don't spend session after session looking to justify or blame. I help couples focus on what they want; to return to love (with a little deliberate guidance). 

In my experience, couples are looking for brief, focused therapy that get's them to where they want to go. No-one is hoping to add months of sessions to their busy schedule, and I provide a solution for that: A Brief Focused Approach that precisely transforms the issues.

We spend very little time assigning blame, going through individual childhood issues, mother/father issues, etc. We deliberately look at becoming more skilled and knowledgeable about our future relationship. Creating a more effective relationship moving forward. Aiming to create a deeply intimate, safe, emotional connection that can be filled with love and blissful surrender.

Troubled partners seem to be in conflict, in a desperate attempt to cause (leverage/coerce) their partners into giving them what they need from the relationship. They want to love, and be loved in return, but something isn't working and they are unable to understand how to get what they need. 

Are you ready to accept expert assistance? Are you willing to contribute to the success of your relationship, even if this means changing some aspect of your own approach, if necessary?

The well-known, original approach to marriage counselling has been aimed at creating compromise; an arrangement. While this may seem practical, this approach has it's roots in the 1950's and has been proven to be mostly irrelevant and outdated. So much has changed since then - and not just two income families, the birth control pill, feminism, etc. From cell-phone communication, parenting approaches, life-span, internet etc. all influence the way we approach relationship.

...to see things we were not able to see on our own... and with only few sessions changed drastically the direction our relationship was headed.
Thank you. You are the best thing that ever happened to us.

Tilila I.

Romantic examples that originate in the 50's, 60's and 70's are simply no longer applicable (and sometimes even considered quite inappropriate).

There is a better way. The secret is in the approach; the way we look at relationship. And this new approach works! In fact, it helps couples create an intimately loving relationship they want.

Loving Relationship

The rewards of a loving relationships are too numerous to mention. Immune system and longevity aside, it's the peace that we want. The feeling that we can truly feel accepted for who we are - in a peaceful home, filled with nurture, joy, sense of belonging, support and acceptance; a space where we can discover ourselves while being loved "just the way we are".

Let's do relationship better.
Let's create a healthier, collaborative and fulfilling relationship.
And let's start today

"Everything else seems secondary when your relationship isn't working"

Laura (&Brian) H.

Marriage counselling is meant to be the process that transforms relationships to spiritually fulfilling, blissful partnerships for both partners. Unfortunately, couples look for marriage counselling once they're struggling; after the marriage is in trouble, when they realize that their efforts seemed to no avail.

While deep down you want to get back to the relationship you envisioned for yourself, resentment, intolerance and anger have taken their toll on romance and intimacy in marriage that contribute to that deep sense of belonging and acceptance, or even a sexless marriage. Now your relationship is filled with disagreements, escalation and unfulfilled needs. Communication has broken down and it looks as if the relationship is spiraling out of control.

"Thank you so much for today.
You helped us turn a total crisis around in under 2hrs."

Laura C.

Approach

As you might imagine, not all marriage counsellors use the same approach. Some focus on creating understanding and compromise, others treat the relationship as two individuals who need a referee to tell them who's right and who's wrong or what's acceptable or unacceptable behaviour in a relationship.

My approach is to empower both partners. To explore deep-rooted healing of the factors that plague a relationship. Without this fundamental shift in approach, solving the core issues in the relationship becomes an impossible task. Once these core issues are solved, finding ways to empower the partner is easy and rewarding, giving them the motivation and resources to focus on your needs.

Do you know what you want from your relationship? Are you ready to discover your best relationship yet - with your current partner? What if it requires some relationship work - and what if it is a worthwhile investment into your relationship (and ultimately yourself)?

Instead of marriage therapy that ends up in complaining about each-other, wouldn't you rather learn how to create a working relationship where both partners communicate openly and feel accepted and respected?  

"After 10 years, my marriage is a sanctuary of peace for my heart, and I've never felt this level of intimacy with my wife - Thank you !!! Its better than I imagined when we got married!"

David (& Jenn) S.

When you come to work on your relationship with me, I keep you (both) focused on creating solutions that work in harmony with how you want your relationship to evolve. I focus you on what you ultimately want - and how to get there. Rather than waste your time on being a referee in a competitive relationship, I bring you into a rewarding, mature and intimate relationship that empowers you with the skills and tools to co-create a lifetime of intimacy, fulfillment and growth. I provide a time-proven approach that brings people together and creates safe, loving, respectful partners in a new understanding of the other and the relationship. It helps you create a relationship where you can feel safe and validated; a place you can be yourself and be loved for who you are.

My goal is to create rapid, comprehensive change and keep you curious and motivated along the way. My mission is to empower you with the skills and tools to work on your own relationship, well into the future; after you've completed your sessions. Typically within 6 months, we right the ship and confidently set a course for a relationship you want to be part of, without needing to rely on further sessions over an extended period of time.

In just a few sessions, you learn the key parts that help you turn your relationship around. Then we create a space where we can explore why you've been reacting the way you have and why you and your partner repeats the same behaviours, over and over. Our aim is to create a space were you can discover who you are, without being subject to your partner's judgment or correction; a space where you can feel accepted for who you are.

Do you want a relationship that lets you feel safe and nurtured while supporting your growth and providing a home for your heart? Rediscover intimacy and trust in the marriage, the joy, emotional safety and acceptance that comes from a healthy relationship.

My approach is different than typical marriage counselling as we work together to create the marriage you want without spending too much time discussing who was wrong (in the past), settling arguments, etc.

Together, you discover the true differences in approach between the masculine and feminine in the marriage, discovering and meeting each other's needs, how to rekindle a loving sexual intimacy, communicating effectively, rediscovering trust, overcoming hurt, etc.

Cost of marriage counselling: Your first session is a free, no obligation orientation video call.
Full discretion assured.

Contact Info

2 Bloor Street West
7th Floor Reception

Toronto, ON, M4W 3E2

(416) 930-0186

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